Are you tired? You are the designated driver and the preparer of all rough drafts before the final project is due. You are the one your friends come to for advice. You march through your days with a sense of accomplishment and purpose. You know what everybody else should be doing and strive to lead by example.
In fact, you work so hard that you crash into your pillow at night beat, frustrated, and wondering why you can't just "not care" like some of your friends can...the ones who seem so much more obliviously happy than you are.
Beware, precious good girl. If you do not find a better way soon, the "not care" you desire will hit you with an exhaustion you've never known before. You will find yourself against the wall; a moment when you resent every other person getting what they think they want, while you sacrifice for the "cause of Christ".
You will move in with a boy because you are tired of "standing strong" while feeling alone. You will begin to cut corners at work, becoming weary of expectation, forgetting that your very cubicle is holy ground from which your daily ministry should seep into the workplace. Indeed, as your focus strays from Jesus, you will compromise the dreams He planted into your soul, one miniscule surrender at a time.
Good girl, you need to know that there are far more tiring and lonely life situations than the state of being "good". Ask the woman in the loveless marriage or the mom who was offered the world, only to be left alone to protect her children from it. Could we consider that many of us might be lonely because others can't possibly hold up to our self-imposed standards of being good?
You want to know the truth? We aren't really that good anyway. We desperately want to be though, right? We want it to be true so badly that we will adopt rule, after rule, after rule as a structure by which to become "it"...good, admired, attractive, wanted, needed even.
When the God who gives us true LIFE resides in us, yet we strive for more "good", sound the alarm!!
He wasn't enough for the Pharisees either. They added layers of voluntary, man-made, "good" in the form of obedience to their own rules too; hoping to be set apart from the "average Joe" Jews of the time. It must have been exhausting then, just as it is exhausting now. In fact, it is unsustainable.
Hang in there, girl, and for goodness sake, let go of trying to control the future. This pace will kill us. It will result in spiritual death by a worry that suggests that God may not give us enough to be, well...enough.
Cast away the expectations of "try hard" today and marvel at its weightlessness.
"...being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." Phil. 1:6
The Good Girl Gut Check:
1. In what areas of your life do you feel pressure to achieve "good".
2. In what areas are you compromising your convictions because you are tired of going it alone?
3. Who needs to come alongside of you to help you stay the course and to lean on God for acceptance and strength. Will you ask them for help?
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M.S. in Marriage and Family Therapy. Earns Crossfit participation trophies. Disaster cook. Enthusiastic wife. #Boymom. Clutches her faith, not her pearls.