The noise is so loud and so unrelenting that there's really nothing to do but to retreat inside myself. I can't think about what will happen if I don't, I only understand that I need to do it. The older picks on the younger. The younger is crying and he's been sick for the past week. I haven't slept in days and though it's 6pm, I'm still wearing the pajamas I woke up in this morning. I envision myself screaming unspeakable things at my kids...things I could never take back. Not acceptable; so instead, I shut down and go through the motions.
Stress. Illness. Depression. Anxiety. Marriage. Relationships. Addiction.
Shutting down. Can any of you relate to that scenario? It seems safer to pull back, to retreat into ourselves as a protection for those around us. Survival mode is necessary at times. This past week, a video that I had seen back in college was used in a class I attended and I'd like to share it with you. Watching through the lens of parenthood, it almost brought me to tears. In our days so full of distraction, it's important to be reminded of why our emotional presence is such a big deal to those around us.
Though Tronick's example was with an infant, I'm sure we can all think of times our families have tried to get our attention when we've checked out. Does anyone else feel like a cell phone to the ear is the magical calling for young ones to tug at our pant legs? Our children, our families, and our friends sense when our attention is placed elsewhere.
The further we retreat from life, the more radical their behavior has to become to regain our focus. It's a dangerous spiral that leaves entire families in ruin.
We're called to health and purpose. If you're struggling to remain present and active in your life and in the life of your family, I urge you to seek help this week. We're not meant to struggle alone and we're certainly not made to walk numb through our days. I pray fullness and rest over you today, knowing that God is faithful to supply our need when we ask for help.
I would really love to hear your responses. Please share below!
1. What was your initial reaction to this video?
2. How does it apply to your life? Are any of your spiritual or emotional needs suffering from neglect?
3. Who might you ask for help? For support and prayer?
4. How can you support or pray for somebody you know who needs help?
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M.S. in Marriage and Family Therapy. Earns Crossfit participation trophies. Disaster cook. Enthusiastic wife. #Boymom. Clutches her faith, not her pearls.