There's one kid running naked, protesting against the shower I'm trying to muscle him into. The other one knows better than to flee by foot, and unintentionally continues to smear black goo across the bathroom floor. He stayed to clean the mess they'd just made together. Grandma left her mascara in the guest bathroom and well, the rest is history. The dog's barking and darts in and out of my legs as I walk. Not even able to hear my own thoughts, I run back and forth between the two crime scenes a couple of times, uncertain about where to begin.
The youngest locks himself in the other bathroom and I can hear muffled giggles behind the door. Entering the beginnings of rage status after spotting a charcoal smudge on the tan carpet, I give up. Raising the second story window only as high as it'll go (it's screwed shut to prevent any attempts at becoming airborne by my resident superheroes), I yell out to the backyard where my uber-relaxed husband is lounging on a recliner chair. "ASSISTANCE PLEASE!", I bark.
The man seems to awaken from a dead sleep, because he's startled and stumbles across the pool deck at the sound of my panicked request. Within a minute he crosses the span of three flights of stairs in a jog. Within ten, he’s cleaned up the perpetrators, disciplined them, and has them outside - safely hidden away from their edgy mother. If there was a modern day version of a knight in shining armor, that guy was it. Respect.
"More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the
better comes after the worse." Doug Larson
This being wedding season, I’ve seen the most gorgeous pics scrolled over the internet. Brides carried effortlessly through pink sunsets. Shiny rings and interconnected fingers. Dimly lit first dances. I get carried away by the visual perfection of the occasion, briefly forgetting the stress of the actual day. And the "couple hashtags"...they just keep getting cuter. But.
#WhatYouSeeIsNOTWhatYouGet #Love'sLikeAFineWine #RespectGrows
Respect. We all truly believe that we have it on day one, but it wells up so wide and all-encompassing when:
Don't believe the lie. These relationships, these beautiful architectures - they're constructed as life's stresses bend and shape our ability to rely on one another.
They grow strong as we're sure that we can do this life ourselves, but slowly realize that we don't have to.
Be encouraged Newlyweds, the best is yet to come.
Be filled with gratitude Veterans, and celebrate respect earned over time and shared cups of coffee.
Be joyful Singles, as God places friendships or dating relationships in your life for a purpose.
All my love,
(The one whose kid still has mascara in his ear.)
"Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves." Romans 12:10
M.S. in Marriage and Family Therapy. Earns Crossfit participation trophies. Disaster cook. Enthusiastic wife. #Boymom. Clutches her faith, not her pearls.