My husband. He did this on purpose, probably just to spite me. I've never been so sure of anything in my life.
I wait, no, I lurk in the shadows of the living room, arms crossed and resisting the urge to dive my hands into soapy water, remedying his complete lack of responsibility for the sugary, late night snack. I dare you to leave that fruit on the counter.
And then, casual and oblivious, he chucks the hard pineapple shell into the garbage, whisks the juice away with just a few swipes of the dishrag, and sinks into the couch beside me.
And that was not-at-all the story I just told myself about him in my head...
The only problem is that the little buggers can't always remember when we had the experience. They only remember that we did at some point, and so, emotions come back under familiar circumstances.
They remember every time that we felt that way, and the feelings rush over us like water breaking through a dam.
This is exactly why a perfectly logical person can rage on the insides over a pineapple. (I don't know who that crazy person was in the story above, of course, so I'm only speaking hypothetically, wink wink).
Think about the silliest reason that you lashed out at a friend, coworker, or loved one. What was it about? An assignment? A desk chair? Chores? A "tone" of voice? We all have triggers, but they're very rarely because of the situation of the moment.
People rage over all different kinds of "pineapple" because:
- They've felt unappreciated at some point in their lives.
- They've made bad decisions and the consequences have been difficult to accept.
- They've been told or shown that they're "less than."
- They had parents and grandparents whose habits they've perpetuated.
- They've had unkind acts perpetrated against them.
- They've been taken advantage of.
Do you want to know how to break the cycle? Here's a good place to start:
1. Name the "icky sense."
- What is this feeling specifically? Loneliness, rejection, sadness, bitterness, fear?
- What thoughts am I having and how does my body feel?
- When have I felt like this in the past?
- What triggered it today?
- How do I usually cover up, try to fix, or pawn off my feelings when I feel this bad?
- What does God's word say about it?
- Choose a new response based on a better understanding of yourself and the situation from scripture, your prayer time, or a wise friend's counsel.
Seeing pineapple in a brand new light (oh, and my husband too),