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Last week we discussed the struggle and biblical significance of separation and divorce. I received feedback from you in response - from questions, to gratitude for “going there.”
A friend's comment stayed with me throughout the week. “Oh good,” she'd said. “I’m glad you’re talking about that because I never know what to say when somebody tells me they’re having problems.”
It’s a common struggle, and none of us enjoy foot-in-the-mouth moments. So here are seven easy, helpful (and fairly safe) things to say or do as a friend or family member confronts divorce.
“We never say the ‘D’ word in our house,” the older woman informs me with pride. “We both know it’s not an option so we make it work. We’ve been married over thirty years now.”
As I listen, I’m obviously happy for her. I also wonder if she and her husband are “good fighters.” Does one partner always get his or her way? Does the other concede and stay secretly resentful? My therapist mind kicks into action, but I decide it’s none of my business to ask…maybe another time.
Greetings from the woods! As I type, I'm surrounded by sweeping pines strung with curtains of Spanish moss. It's hot and the evening showers that Florida is so well known for will be pressing in any moment. There's a lot to be said for travel. Whether we're meeting new people, or seeing things we've never laid eyes on before, there's much to discover outside the confines of home.
We don't know ourselves until we've stepped foot into the unknown. I resolutely believe that. It's there, in the new place, that every belief, preconception, and habit of ours is challenged. It's in the practice of patience, near death experiences, and waiting in line that faith is built. (Just ask my husband who drove an RV (towing a truck), wife, two kids, and a dog to the other side of twelve hours).
I posted some pictures just for fun and I've left you with a short story about our trip from Facebook below. Share some of your favorite 4th of July pics in the comments section. I can't wait to see them!
"Somehow we realize that great stories are told in conflict, but we're unwilling to embrace the potential greatness of the story we are actually in. We think God is unjust, rather than a master storyteller." Donald Miller
M.S. in Marriage and Family Therapy. Earns Crossfit participation trophies. Disaster cook. Enthusiastic wife. #Boymom. Clutches her faith, not her pearls.