It's anniversary week at The Gritty Pearl! One year ago and with trembling fingers, I pressed "post" for the very first time. It was a nerve wracking experience, but one I don't regret for a second. Anytime we put ourselves "out there" for any reason, it's accompanied by a whirlwind of emotions. It's truly been a busy, wonderful year.
If you're a first time visitor this week, welcome!
You can read Part One of this two-part series here: 3 Ways to Spot Emotional Abuse and Manipulation.
For those of you who are visiting for the follow-up to last week's blog, I sincerely thank you. Your encouraging response to this call of action is a big deal! I'm confident that God will continue to equip us to care for the abused as we learn and engage in discussion together.
An important note: This article is geared toward encouragers of women whose partners refuse help. As a woman of faith and a marriage and family therapist, I don't advocate divorce. I do, however, agree with "proactive separation" in unsafe circumstances, with the primary goal being healing and reconciliation.
Sadly, that goal of safety and accord is not always possible for every couple. All things are possible with God, though not all of His children choose to follow His example of love in the mistreatment of their spouses. Should that be your experience, I join you in prayer, recognizing that the pain of divorce is a relational death that requires us to mourn. You are so loved and never alone!
When I was in college, I had a friend who met a guy in an everyday, run-of-the-mill type of way. They had mutual acquaintances. They met for coffee here and there, which led to dinner, movies, and eventually to meeting friends and family. He was cute and charming. He seemed to care about her and she liked him a lot, so he got the initial "friend" stamp of approval.
Dear sons with your honey-colored, summer hair and those mischievous grins,
I picture you twenty years from now, launching into a world full of adventure and choice, creating stories written in your own script and choosing partners to pen them with. By that age, your Dad and I will (most likely) find you (slightly) intolerable. Because, if you're anything like we were, you'll believe you know more than parents do about all the things. I'll pray about that in advance...
M.S. in Marriage and Family Therapy. Earns Crossfit participation trophies. Disaster cook. Enthusiastic wife. #Boymom. Clutches her faith, not her pearls.