Do you want to know the secret to divorce-proofing your marriage? Me too.
We don't have to search far to discover thousands of couples who struggle with the disillusion of a not-so-new-anymore love. Maybe you know them...perhaps even two of those faces looked back at you from the mirror this morning.
Again, me too at points throughout the years.
If you've been wondering about what to do with your stalled relationship, know that you're not alone. Sometimes couples suffer in silence, but it doesn't mean that tough patches aren't common.
Take for instance these couples' admissions. When marriage therapist and author, Laura Taggart, asked them, "What are the biggest surprises and challenges about marriage?," this is what they had to say:
"How the little stuff can become big stuff so quickly."
"How quickly the 'young love' turns into the 'old couple.' I feel like we have to schedule sex just to make it happen, while we used to be so spontaneous and romantic."
"I didn't imagine how compromising would be as hard as it can be sometimes."
"How much the daily grind chips away at romance."
You can probably relate, so what should we do about it?
Join Laura and me for our discussion on "How to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage."
Quiz: How much will a hundred dollars be worth if I put it in the bank for twenty years and it grows at its current interest rate?
Answer: Enough to keep the Hallmark channel on our TV package for at least a few months.
I'll admit, I’m not great with money. My better half will tell you that it’s not that I spend too much or too little of it. I’m just not a great long-term planner. And truthfully, I’d rather get a root canal than do math for fun.
The good news: I don’t manage any accounts at your local bank.
I've counseled couples through this very issue though, and heard some crazy stories in my day. I'll pass along lessons I've learned to those of you working to keep your marriage together with more than a little duct tape and Gorilla Glue.
Here are five money decisions that ruin marriage:
It's August already. How did that happen? Time flies as the beach beckons, complete with an oversized umbrella and a glass of sweet tea. Many of us have been on the wedding circuit these past few months. Rather than traveling the Tour de Nuptiale, perhaps you've celebrated an anniversary recently. Summertime brings more than its share of opportunities to examine our own relationships as we lend our support to others'.
Last week we discussed the struggle and biblical significance of separation and divorce. I received feedback from you in response - from questions, to gratitude for “going there.”
A friend's comment stayed with me throughout the week. “Oh good,” she'd said. “I’m glad you’re talking about that because I never know what to say when somebody tells me they’re having problems.”
It’s a common struggle, and none of us enjoy foot-in-the-mouth moments. So here are seven easy, helpful (and fairly safe) things to say or do as a friend or family member confronts divorce.
Crossfitter. Back-Packer. Mother of two.
Kind and full of GRIT.
Please welcome guest blogger, Lisa Doyle, to the Gritty Pearl this week!
Last week, my life went off the rails.
There was a lot of cheating, lying, and the finality of my signature on a divorce agreement. Stamped and filed, it's on the docket to change my life forever. A dear friend texted me before I headed downtown with my soon-to-be-ex that morning, knowing the kind of pain I was walking into. She told me to pick a breath prayer and sent a verse.
M.S. in Marriage and Family Therapy. Earns Crossfit participation trophies. Disaster cook. Enthusiastic wife. #Boymom. Clutches her faith, not her pearls.