Over the past week, I've followed #theysaid and #shereplied on Twitter. Maybe you've seen the trending conversations. Women all over the world poured out painful memories of people's comments about their bodies. They've also encouraged one another and shared personal realizations about worth for the benefit of everyone.
In my own life, I remember words as if they were spoken yesterday. Friends and family members were likely oblivious to the pain they caused, speaking from their own insecurity or cultural scripts. Few people purposefully seek to harm, but comments like these sear the memory...
"I'm sorry you inherited my thighs, my chest, my skin tone."
"Your nose is big and pointy, and you laugh like your mother."
"Men want women with big breasts."
"You're getting awfully 'hippy,' you carry weight around your middle."
"This is the heaviest I've ever seen you."
Unfortunately, none of us are immune to criticism. We all have insecurities, but ultimately, we'll only believe the ones we repeat to ourselves day after day. We have the power to flip the script. The old voices can be drowned out, but it requires us to enforce personal boundaries and to stop negative thinking dead in its tracks. It mostly means that we have to believe God - first, and without apology.
Here are a few resources to enjoy, should you struggle with acceptance too. I've joined Faith and Fitness Magazine for an article on letting go of other people's expectations. It includes great music and a podcast too. Click the images below to explore!
Can you relate to the women of #theysaid and #shereplied? We'd love to hear your thoughts below.
Photo Credit: Christopher Campbell
Marriage and Family Therapist. Earns Crossfit participation trophies. Disaster cook, but winning at wife. Tries hard at #momlife. Clutches her faith, not her pearls.
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PEOPLE I FOLLOW:
BECAUSE I LEARN:
BECAUSE I LAUGH:
Elizabeth Laing Thompson
Liz Curtis Higgs
BECAUSE I ADVOCATE:
Juli Slattery at Authentic Intimacy
BECAUSE I CRY (HAPPILY):
Inspiring Writing Groups:
Suzanne Eller's #LiveFreeThrusday
Holley Gerth's #CoffeeForYourHeart
Kelly Balarie's #RaraLinkup
Jennifer Duke Lee's #TellHisStory
Susan Mead's #DanceWithJesus